By Lizzy Smilez for DivorcedMoms.com
Here are three real scenarios from couples I know well. And they have turned everything I thought about fidelity on its head.
1. The Open Marriage:
Kim and Troy have been married for 25 years and have two children. If one was an outsider looking in, they are the perfect couple. They are both beautiful people, have a beautiful home with a shiny pool in the back yard, two dogs and a cat, two perfect careers, two nice cars and a boat. They are fun to be with, always up for an adventure or a night out. They laugh and are affectionate with each other.
But Kim confided in me that they have been going through a rough patch for years. Troy has been fantasizing about being with other women and wanting her to be with other partners, men or women. They are both bored and have been considering divorce for a few years. Troy cheated on Kim throughout their four year relationship prior to marriage and to this day, she thinks that maybe Troy has cheated on her after their wedding, too. Every time he texts or picks up a call, she wonders.
Finally, at Troy's encouragement, she slept with a friend of Troy's. They filmed it and texted it to Troy. And instead of it destroying their trust and relationship, it has revitalized it. She says they have sex all the time now, they are open with each other in ways they never have been, and she actually trusts Troy because she feels, at last, he's honest. Brutally honest, not always easy to hear. But at last, she doesn't wonder anymore.
I asked Kim if she felt guilty about having the one-time sexual tryst with Troy's pal. No, she said, because she did it for Troy and the outcome has been good for them. She was on the verge of a divorce and, time will tell if infidelity has perhaps saved their marriage. I asked if she would do it again. Probably not.
What will she do if Troy has an affair, or many affairs? She's not sure she cares that much, as long as it's "just sex." And what if it isn't? What if one of those "just sex" women becomes something more? Kim says that she and Troy are strong, they have been together so long that no woman will end their marriage. She's that sure of it. And she, the jealous type, is all of a sudden, more sure of herself than ever, and not feeling so jealous anymore. She feels... at peace.
Kim has decided that she will sacrifice her monogamous marriage in order to have honesty, transparency and openness in their relationship. Honesty at almost any cost. The rules of their marriage have now changed. Will this lead to long-term happiness? Time will tell.
2. The Known Cheater (And Looking The Other Way):
When Lori met Sam, he was already married. She helped break up his marriage and it was an ugly split. Sam's wife fought hard to keep her guy but, ultimately, she failed. A year after their divorce was final, Lori got her wish -- Sam married her amidst great fanfare and a huge wedding. It's been 15 years and they have three sons. As an outsider looking in, they are also the perfect couple. A beautiful home with a pool, two great careers, beautiful boys who are in every sport one can imagine, and one awesome Golden Retriever.
Sam and Lori go to all their boys' games and activities and they have all the beautiful photos on Facebook to prove it. They are one happy family. Except Sam cheats on Lori all the time. Whether it's with his co-worker, the neighbor, his ex wife, or the daughter of a family friend. And Lori knows it. Most of the time, she pretends it's not happening. But a few times, it's been so "in her face" that she's had no choice but to confront it.
Not long ago, she asked Sam to end his current affair. He promised. She demanded they go to counseling. He agreed. But then Lori never made that counseling appointment. Truth is, she doesn't want to go to counselors, she doesn't want to confront any of it. She wants the image and her intact family. Lori explains to me that she loves Sam and she's going to save her marriageb-- period. They have their children, home and, well, there you have it.
In Lori's defense, she knew what she was getting when she married Sam. She got a serial cheater. She wasn't the only one that Sam cheated with when he was married to his first wife. Lori knew the rules of the game of life with Sam and she's willing to play it. As long as Sam keeps the affairs out of her face, Lori will ignore it. For Sam, his job is to keep the cheating hidden. At least Lori isn't demanding her husband become a different guy just because he married her.
Is this a healthy relationship? Um, no. But there are couples like Sam and Lori all around us. And I suppose if they are decent to each other, then the children never need to go through the trauma of a divorce and that's a good thing. Right?
3. The Quiet Cheater:
Mira and Chris married two years ago. During their three-year courtship, Mira caught Chris cheating on her. She broke up with him but Chris came back, promising that he'd changed. After many months, Mira believed Chris, they reconciled and got married. I know Chris well and he tells me a lot about what goes on behind Mira's back. He has cheated on Mira twice. He feels huge guilt but he can't help it. Mira pretends that she trusts Chris and if she ever finds out, I'm quite certain she would divorce him.
Mira is constantly checking Chris' phone and emails. She has also been known to show up at his work unannounced, and even the occasional guy's fishing weekend, to ensure he really is where he says he is. Chris finds it really annoying. Mira feels she's going insane. How long can their marriage survive? Probably not for long.
Women have five options when it comes to cheating husbands.
As much as I've thought about these three stories over the past many months, I've decided there are five options for ladies who date (or are married to) cheaters:
1. End it. There are men who don't cheat. Find one.
2. Open up the relationship. Allow it, value honesty, and put your jealousy and fear aside or otherwise you'll go insane.
3. Look the other way, again and again and again. You'll live a life of dishonesty, but if you value your family and guy more, then perhaps you can find some peace of mind.
4. Make yourself crazy by always looking for signs that your guy is cheating. There will never be peace in your life and when you do catch him, you can take the moral high road and blame, scream and live with it until the next time. Or eventually end the relationship when you've finally had enough of the insanity.
5. Decide to simply trust your guy. Don't look for signs he's cheating. Simply take your relationship at face value.
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Saturday, January 31, 2015
20 Little But Powerful Reminders That Life Goes On After Divorce
Clarity is hard to come by when you're in the middle of a divorce. Your emotions are running high, your legal bills are mounting and you can't help but wonder if you'll ever feel like yourself again.
Though you might feel a little wobbly now, eventually you will get through it. Take it from those who've been there. Earlier this week, we asked HuffPost Divorce readers to share with us the one thing they wish they could go back and tell themselves in the midst of their splits. See some of the most inspiring responses below.
1. "I would tell myself 'You are doing the right thing. Yes, it's tough now, but it will get better.'"
2. "Don't waste so much time being sad. You will regret that sadness robbed you of joyful times with your little boy."
3. "You're stronger than you know."
4. "Don't expect your ex to act like a grownup."
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6. "Stop protecting his best interests and for once, do what's best for you and the kids. Not rudely, or spitefully, but because eventually the emotions will fizzle out, reality will set in and you will miss all you signed away in an effort to keep peace."
7. "If you know it's bad, don't stop the process to 'try one last time.' Things really won't change."
8. "You've loved, learned and will love again."
9. "Take things one day at a time. Don't overwhelm yourself with what the future holds."
10.
11. "Deal with the right here, right now and try to put it behind you. Divorce sucks and nothing will change that but time."
12. "You will find out who your real friends are. You're doing the best with what you have right now."
13. "Do not react to every stimuli your ex throws at you. Stop, think, consult with your friends, sleep on it, and only then react, whether it's a phone call or an email. The right action will look far different tomorrow than it does today."
14. "It really will get better. That's so hard to believe in the midst of all the heartache."
15. "Don't listen to people who have not been through it when they say you just need to get over it and move on. Allow yourself all the time you need to process what is happening to you. It's important!"
16.
17. "Welcome back. I'm glad you have your life back after 30 years of service."
18. "Don't let him off the hook. Don't feel sorry for him. Don't be a vindictive but stand up for yourself and your son. Make him, for once in his life, feel the sting of responsibility. Let him know how hard it is to really provide for a child."
19. "Focus on the positive and remember why you're in the midst of the chaos to begin with."
20. "Know that the hurt and pain will pass one day. Forgive him so you can heal. Don't say anything negative about your ex in front of the kids. Be respectful when dealing with him. Believe it or not, one day, you'll be able to laugh with him again."
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Though you might feel a little wobbly now, eventually you will get through it. Take it from those who've been there. Earlier this week, we asked HuffPost Divorce readers to share with us the one thing they wish they could go back and tell themselves in the midst of their splits. See some of the most inspiring responses below.
1. "I would tell myself 'You are doing the right thing. Yes, it's tough now, but it will get better.'"
2. "Don't waste so much time being sad. You will regret that sadness robbed you of joyful times with your little boy."
3. "You're stronger than you know."
4. "Don't expect your ex to act like a grownup."
5.
6. "Stop protecting his best interests and for once, do what's best for you and the kids. Not rudely, or spitefully, but because eventually the emotions will fizzle out, reality will set in and you will miss all you signed away in an effort to keep peace."
7. "If you know it's bad, don't stop the process to 'try one last time.' Things really won't change."
8. "You've loved, learned and will love again."
9. "Take things one day at a time. Don't overwhelm yourself with what the future holds."
10.
11. "Deal with the right here, right now and try to put it behind you. Divorce sucks and nothing will change that but time."
12. "You will find out who your real friends are. You're doing the best with what you have right now."
13. "Do not react to every stimuli your ex throws at you. Stop, think, consult with your friends, sleep on it, and only then react, whether it's a phone call or an email. The right action will look far different tomorrow than it does today."
14. "It really will get better. That's so hard to believe in the midst of all the heartache."
15. "Don't listen to people who have not been through it when they say you just need to get over it and move on. Allow yourself all the time you need to process what is happening to you. It's important!"
16.
17. "Welcome back. I'm glad you have your life back after 30 years of service."
18. "Don't let him off the hook. Don't feel sorry for him. Don't be a vindictive but stand up for yourself and your son. Make him, for once in his life, feel the sting of responsibility. Let him know how hard it is to really provide for a child."
19. "Focus on the positive and remember why you're in the midst of the chaos to begin with."
20. "Know that the hurt and pain will pass one day. Forgive him so you can heal. Don't say anything negative about your ex in front of the kids. Be respectful when dealing with him. Believe it or not, one day, you'll be able to laugh with him again."
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While our culture gets criticized for being too pro-divorce, I'd like to counter that criticism and say we are a culture of over-tolerance. We tolerate bad behavior and bad relationships for far too long.
We are rewarded for "sticking it out" and are scolded by our society if we don't. I am often amazed to hear what my clients and readers tolerate in a marriage, and how they feel guilty for even having thoughts of ending the relationship.
Perhaps religion, our childhood influencers or the media interfere with our definition of a good marriage versus a bad one. To me, it's pretty simple. One makes you happy and the other makes you miserable.
But first, let's define a good marriage:
No marriage is perfect, but hopefully your marriage reflects some or all of the above points.
But what if it doesn't? How do you know if your marriage is in real turmoil versus just having a few bumps in the road?
Here are some signs you are in a bad marriage:
If you find yourself in this latter category, ask yourself, "Why am I putting up with this? Don't I deserve better?" Do all you can to immerse each other in counseling and problem solving, but if your situation does not improve, you don't have to tolerate it, just because you're married. If you feel guilty for ending it, you should feel more guilty that you let yourself be treated poorly.
Over-tolerance of bad behavior is largely ignored by our culture and instead, we are praised for enduring it. You are allowed to set healthy boundaries for yourself and whoever taught you otherwise is just plain wrong. If you find yourself nodding in acknowledgement that your marriage is really bad, get out now.
You are worth so much more.
Lindsey Ellison is a women's divorce and break up coach, and specializes in helping them break free from their narcissistic partners. For more information, click here.
We are rewarded for "sticking it out" and are scolded by our society if we don't. I am often amazed to hear what my clients and readers tolerate in a marriage, and how they feel guilty for even having thoughts of ending the relationship.
Perhaps religion, our childhood influencers or the media interfere with our definition of a good marriage versus a bad one. To me, it's pretty simple. One makes you happy and the other makes you miserable.
But first, let's define a good marriage:
- You are each other's best friend. You like to do things together and enjoy being in each other's company, even if it's the most mundane event.
- You feel safe to express any emotion. Whether you're happy, proud, tired, or sad, you trust that your partner will hear you, without negating you. Your partner revels in your joy or empathizes in your pain but regardless, you know you can safely express any feeling.
- You allow each other the freedom to grow. As you move throughout each decade, your tastes and wants are bound to change. What interested you 10 years ago may no longer interest you now, and your partner encourages you to explore. You both are willing to give each other the space to spread your wings.
- You find each other attractive. No matter your current age or size, there is still that spark between you. Passion, although you may have less time for it, is still a priority and you make time for intimacy.
- You argue but you argue well. Even if the disagreement results in a one-day reprieve from each other, you find a resolution to where you both feel heard.
- You are a couple, but still remain independent. While you both enjoy time together, you allow each other time to be with or travel with other friends, enjoy hobbies, or simple alone time.
- You divide chores evenly. Both of you maintain roles that will make a successful household, and are equally willing to be flexible should one chore not get done and then work as a team.
No marriage is perfect, but hopefully your marriage reflects some or all of the above points.
But what if it doesn't? How do you know if your marriage is in real turmoil versus just having a few bumps in the road?
Here are some signs you are in a bad marriage:
- You are fearful of rage over the smallest problem. You are verbally abused or worse, physically abused, following an incident that an average person may perceive as minor. Your partner can't handle stress and takes everything out on you to where you walk on egg shells and avoid all conflict.
- You are afraid of or avoid sex entirely. You either must be drunk to have sex or you don't want it at all, but you give in just because you're married, and that's what a spouse should do. (And to note: you should never be forced to have sex with anyone, even if you are married to them. It is rape if you say 'no' and are forced unwillingly).
- You must endure endless passive aggressive behavior. It's one thing to be snippy at each other, but another if every form of communication is a stab at your inadequacy or inability to function as an adult. Should you forget to take out the trash, comments like, "Of course you forgot, you always do" or, "No wonder I have to take care of everything, you can't even do a simple chore," can make you feel devalued and impotent.
- You keep secrets. You withhold information that you would rather share, but you're afraid of being bullied or insulted. You might have connected with an old friend, bought something special just for you, or attended an event that would be disapproving so you lie and said you were elsewhere. Secrets that shouldn't be secrets become so voluminous that they create profound loneliness within you.
- You resent each other. Everything you both do results in a negative comment or insult. The resentfulness feels like a constant tennis match of name calling and bickering, and you've lost track of who started it. (Note: you may have noticed that the invitations to dinner parties are dwindling because your friends are sick of it too).
If you find yourself in this latter category, ask yourself, "Why am I putting up with this? Don't I deserve better?" Do all you can to immerse each other in counseling and problem solving, but if your situation does not improve, you don't have to tolerate it, just because you're married. If you feel guilty for ending it, you should feel more guilty that you let yourself be treated poorly.
Over-tolerance of bad behavior is largely ignored by our culture and instead, we are praised for enduring it. You are allowed to set healthy boundaries for yourself and whoever taught you otherwise is just plain wrong. If you find yourself nodding in acknowledgement that your marriage is really bad, get out now.
You are worth so much more.
Lindsey Ellison is a women's divorce and break up coach, and specializes in helping them break free from their narcissistic partners. For more information, click here.
Thursday, January 29, 2015
Immigration Monitor - April 2014 US Immigration Newsletter
In the run-up to the H-1B cap 2015 filing season, VisaPro had predicted that intense competition would significantly bring down the odds of winning the FY2015 H-1B lottery and that the odds of getting selected would be 2 out of 4.
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Divorce Confidential: Child Testimony in Divorce Proceedings
In litigated custody battles, clients sometimes ask if their child can testify. This is undoubtedly tempting, especially if your child is saying he or she wants to spend more time with you than your ex-spouse. However tempting, there are a few things you need to consider before you and your lawyer decide whether to allow your child to testify in the divorce proceeding.
1. Is Your Child's Testimony Necessary? Ask yourself tough questions including why you want your child to testify. What is the real reason? Can your child help the judge understand the circumstances in your home and how the custody arrangement is affecting your child? If circumstances are difficult for your child and he/she is mature enough to express his/her desires, then you may want to allow your child to testify. But if you're only really looking to get revenge, want to embarrass your ex-spouse or just simply want more custody time than your ex-spouse, think twice before you allow your child to testify. My general advice is to only allow your child to testify if there are extremely difficult circumstances which would endanger the child.
2. Think About the Long-Term Effects On Your Child: Consider the long-term effects testifying will have on your child. A divorce is already a traumatizing experience for most children. It is even worse if the parents engage in a bitterly-litigated custody battle. Will it be difficult for your child to testify because it will make him/her feel as if he/she is picking sides? You need to consider how your child will feel and what it will do to your child psychologically. Remember that you normally want to encourage your child to have a healthy relationship with your ex-spouse who is, after all, the child's mother or father. Allowing your child to testify will undoubtedly affect the relationship dynamic between you and your ex-spouse and your child. How would you feel if your child were testifying against you? Would you resent your ex-spouse or your child? Also try and determine why your child is expressing an interest in testifying. Take some time to talk with your child and ask tough questions before making a final decision.
3. Research Child Testimony Laws In Your State: Consult with an attorney in your state to see how the law treats child testimony in custody cases. California allows a child fourteen (14) years or older to testify in divorce proceedings involving custody issues, unless the testimony would not be in the "best interest" of the child. This doesn't mean a child under the age of fourteen (14) cannot testify. The court may consider a child under fourteen (14) if the child is of sufficient maturity. In Georgia, the court will hear a child's testimony only in extreme cases and may assess the child's competency. Talk to your attorney and ask if there are specialized procedures the court will take when deciding whether to permit a child to testify. For example, your court may allow video depositions of your child's testimony, or may allow your child to be accompanied by a trusted companion during the testimony.
Regardless of whether you decide to allow your child to testify, it is important to remember that this decision should not be taken lightly. The long-term psychological effects on your child is something which may not surface for some time. If anything, just remember to keep your focus on the best interests of you and your ex-spouse's child.
1. Is Your Child's Testimony Necessary? Ask yourself tough questions including why you want your child to testify. What is the real reason? Can your child help the judge understand the circumstances in your home and how the custody arrangement is affecting your child? If circumstances are difficult for your child and he/she is mature enough to express his/her desires, then you may want to allow your child to testify. But if you're only really looking to get revenge, want to embarrass your ex-spouse or just simply want more custody time than your ex-spouse, think twice before you allow your child to testify. My general advice is to only allow your child to testify if there are extremely difficult circumstances which would endanger the child.
2. Think About the Long-Term Effects On Your Child: Consider the long-term effects testifying will have on your child. A divorce is already a traumatizing experience for most children. It is even worse if the parents engage in a bitterly-litigated custody battle. Will it be difficult for your child to testify because it will make him/her feel as if he/she is picking sides? You need to consider how your child will feel and what it will do to your child psychologically. Remember that you normally want to encourage your child to have a healthy relationship with your ex-spouse who is, after all, the child's mother or father. Allowing your child to testify will undoubtedly affect the relationship dynamic between you and your ex-spouse and your child. How would you feel if your child were testifying against you? Would you resent your ex-spouse or your child? Also try and determine why your child is expressing an interest in testifying. Take some time to talk with your child and ask tough questions before making a final decision.
3. Research Child Testimony Laws In Your State: Consult with an attorney in your state to see how the law treats child testimony in custody cases. California allows a child fourteen (14) years or older to testify in divorce proceedings involving custody issues, unless the testimony would not be in the "best interest" of the child. This doesn't mean a child under the age of fourteen (14) cannot testify. The court may consider a child under fourteen (14) if the child is of sufficient maturity. In Georgia, the court will hear a child's testimony only in extreme cases and may assess the child's competency. Talk to your attorney and ask if there are specialized procedures the court will take when deciding whether to permit a child to testify. For example, your court may allow video depositions of your child's testimony, or may allow your child to be accompanied by a trusted companion during the testimony.
Regardless of whether you decide to allow your child to testify, it is important to remember that this decision should not be taken lightly. The long-term psychological effects on your child is something which may not surface for some time. If anything, just remember to keep your focus on the best interests of you and your ex-spouse's child.
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The Court confirmed a Chapter 11 Plan of Reorganization proposed by a Committee of lien-holding creditors of the Debtor entity but reserved approval of two provisions under the Plan for later determination. The case was commenced by a Jannie Richardson as the pre-petition managing member of the Debtor entity. The lien-holders' Committee proposed that a post-confirmation permanent injunction be placed against Ms. Richardson, barring her from holding herself out as an agent of the newly reorganized Debtor and prohibiting her from entering the property of the reorganized Debtor. The lien-holders' Committee also proposed that this Court retain jurisdiction post-confirmation over any claims asserted by the lien-holders' Committee or the reorganized Debtor against Ms. Richardson or any other of her affiliates.
The Court applied the test for permanent injunctions set forth by the United States Supreme Court in eBay Inc. v. MercExhange, LLC and found that based on the testimonies provided by the Trustee appointed in the personal Chapter 11 bankruptcy case of Ms. Richardson and the chief executive officer of the newly reorganized Debtor, and based on this Court's own observations of Ms. Richardson's conduct over a period of two and a half years, an injunction spanning eighteen months was proper to allow the Debtor reasonable time to undertake the Plan. The Court also opted to retain jurisdiction of matters post-confirmation, concurrent with the jurisdiction of other courts of competent jurisdiction.
The Court applied the test for permanent injunctions set forth by the United States Supreme Court in eBay Inc. v. MercExhange, LLC and found that based on the testimonies provided by the Trustee appointed in the personal Chapter 11 bankruptcy case of Ms. Richardson and the chief executive officer of the newly reorganized Debtor, and based on this Court's own observations of Ms. Richardson's conduct over a period of two and a half years, an injunction spanning eighteen months was proper to allow the Debtor reasonable time to undertake the Plan. The Court also opted to retain jurisdiction of matters post-confirmation, concurrent with the jurisdiction of other courts of competent jurisdiction.
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The Wikipedia Internet site defines single parents are parents without partners in raising a child or children. A single parent, accordingly is one parent who is not dealing with the child's or children's other significant parent,.
Definitions and descriptions of single parents differ and vary from one society or country to another society or nation. Different cultures also foster different treatment and classification for single parents. Divorce lawyers in Waterbury CT offer free consultation for many of these single parents in the Waterbury area.
In one country, however, single parents are treated differently according to geographic locations. For example, single parents in the industrial and commercial cities are treated differently and are provided with different perks as compared to those single parents who are based in provinces or the rural areas.
Single parenthood is becoming a very popular style of living nowadays. However, not all societies are readily prepared to accept and treat the trend or concept as a rising trend or norm. Not all societies are readily prepared to accept and treat the trend or concept as a rising trend or norm.
The technical definition of single parents:
Single parents are either left alone or abandoned by other significant parents or their significant partners. The abandonment involved may come in different styles, occasions and forms.
Single parents are usually alienated by their respective partners after divorce, after separation (both legal and in principle), after the other parent is jailed, after practical abandonment or after the other parent dies.
Single parents, in more rare cases, do not really have to be the child or children's biological parents. Yes, blood and DNS affinity may not be the only basis on parenthood.
This also applies to single parents. Single parenthood really is a choice, especially if the child is not really biologically from the single mom or single dad. What a noble situation if that happens!
Single parenthood, therefore, is a choice. Single parents practically choose to be such.You know how hard it is to raise children nowadays. Financially, physically, emotionally and mentally, single parenthood can really be draining.
In other countries, especially those characterized by strict norms or cultures, single parents are still considered outcasts. That is because during those rare cases, single parents are treated like they have done unforgivable mistakes or misgivings.
The rising trend of single parents:
A recent commissioned study in the United States alone reveals that about three children in every ten children on a nationwide average live in homes run by single parents.
According to family law attorneys in Waterbury, CT the most common and prevalent type of single parents are those situations where there is the single mom. It should also be noted, however, that the other type of single parenthood, those with the father acting as both the mom and the dad of the child is also rapidly increasing.
The father as the single parent is the common single parenthood setting in the Islamic countries. That is because the governments of these nations still do not recognize the value and the ability of women, particularly moms to raise children or even carry on such great responsibilities.
The 2002 Census report in the United States showed that there were only 15 % of non-custodial parents whose single parent carrying on the responsibility of raising the child is the father. For comparison, that figure has risen by 10 % over the past ten years.
It means, in the 1990s, it was very rare that single dads carry on the responsibility of solely raising the child. Tides have turned since then, apparently. Single dads are now becoming a popular notion, concept or situation in the modern society.
Single parenthood:
Indeed, you must not be too judgmental against single parents, especially in these times. It is because the trend and concept of single parenthood is becoming not uncommon to almost all societies around the globe.
Gone were the days when children raised by single parents were called bastards and were teased ceaselessly in school. The legislative sector now has instituted laws to protect children of single parents.
Single parenthood is becoming too popular and common that it's now an accepted situation and occurrence. We should commend and congratulate all single parents. The choice they have made for their lives is truly courageous.
Single parenthood really is a choice, especially if the child is not really biologically from the single mom or single dad. Single parents practically choose to be such. It means,in the 1990s, it was very rare that single dads carry on the responsibility of solely raising the child.
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Collecting Your Fees with Ease
Traditional collection policies may be necessary, but aren't always the most effective way to solve collection problems. A comprehensive approach—starting with client intake procedures and covering billing, communications, and dispute resolution—helps eliminate collection problems before they start.
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